J.S.O. Syndrome


I have a problem with relationships. That problem is jealous boyfriends, husbands, etc. I am appalled by the number of friendships I have had with girls that have gone cold because the girls allow a male significant other to dictate to them (through guilt trips, whining, picking fights, etc.) the terms of their friendships with other males. Jealous Significant Other Syndrome – J.S.O. Syndrome for short… Nevermind that some of these friendships have lasted literally for decades. So many examples come to mind – a multitude of “Katies”, Taylor, Azurdee, Nicole, Kenda, Katy, Sarah, Karen, Susan, Andrea, Carrie, Mandy, Sadie, Rachel, Kasey, Tanja, Michelle, Julie (not my sister), Kim, Lindsey – those are just off the top of my head.

Oh well, such is life, I suppose…


7 thoughts on “J.S.O. Syndrome

  1. I can tell that you honestly care.
    You’re just stating the obvious.

    Girls are dumb. I will admit.
    But thats only because I am the smartest dumb person you ever knew.

  2. I realize that this is hella old but just wanted to let you know that I no longer suffer from J.O.S! It did take me a few years of fights over innocent phone calls and lunch dates to see that if my significant other wants to be part of my world he needs to deal with the current population! I’m ever so glad that I was able to keep you as a friend. Thanks for keeping me.


    • Here at The Velvet Rocket headquarters we prefer the term “classic” as opposed to “old”, Sadie. :)

      Congratulations on recovering from your bout with J.S.O. Syndrome. J.S.O. is a nasty piece of work, isn’t it? However, once one is cured, I believe the restored feelings of freedom and independence make the recovery process well worth it, no? Like the proverbial weight being lifted from one’s chest…

      And it’s not just about the individual – I have also observed a positive impact on relationships that survive a period of J.S.O. syndrome. As feelings of resentment and jealousy evaporate, the relationship invariably improves.

      Thank you for your kind words, Sadie. Your friend position is quite secure, so no worries on that front.

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